Holy Moly! I can’t believe it’s already November… ALREADY! Which means Dallie’s birthday has passed and I have been a mom for 5 YEARS!
October tends to be very hectic for us and this year was no exception! With it being Dallie’s birthday month, we are always busy planning and getting everything together for the big event! Once that is over and we catch our breath, we blink and it’s Halloween! I am working on embracing seasons and moments as they come and go, therefore we won’t even go into the fact that Thanksgiving and Christmas are just around the corner. *Whew!*
Instead, I am going to embrace the few weeks before the beautiful chaos that Thanksgiving brings. Today, I choose to reflect on my little lady’s FIFTH BIRTHDAY and what she has taught me! You read that correctly – FIFTH! It still baffles me that my once tiny human that could fit in just my forearm now walks around singing songs, making up stories and making us laugh any chance she gets (she is the funniest person I know!) She is so bright, her memory is like no other person I have ever met. Since she was small, she could recall moments that happened by just seeing a picture or an item or hearing a voice. She is as ornery as ever but feels with all of her being. She is loud and bold and loves being the center of attention.
Speaking of being the center of attention – that brings us to number 1 on the list!
1) Because of her, I discovered just how strong I am. I have learned how to be the center of attention and not let it make me feel as though I am sinking into the black abyss. Because let’s face it sometimes when we walk into the market Dallie still has a song stuck in her head and feels the vibes… out loud. Possibly as loud as her heart is feeling it at the moment. I have literally had people compliment her from other isles of the store because they thought she was “so adorable” – they always walk over to meet her. I truly believe she is going to do big things in her life (that’s what all parents think, huh?)
2) Because of her, I found my voice. I have learned that everyone has an opinion, but rarely others want to hear yours. That often times people ask questions they don’t want the answers to. But, I’ve also learned that it’s okay to speak your mind and to set boundaries. The people who truly respect and care for you will understand and comply. Those that don’t understand and don’t respect you… well they have to go. Which leads me to number 3!
3) Because of her, I have learned when to let go. When someone or something doesn’t bring you happiness or joy and becomes more of a chore, it’s time to let go. I’m not saying as soon as something feels like a little more work than usual to run the other direction. But, know yourself and know your surroundings and the people you choose to let in. Do they respect you? Do they honor your feelings and respect your boundaries? Make sure to surround yourself with positive influences because you will be SO surprised how those around you affect how you are.
4) Because of her, I have learned how important it is to be kind to myself. I’m not the only one listening now. She is observing every little thing that I do and say. Which includes what I say about myself. I don’t always have the best thoughts about myself and it’s something I’m actively working at, but I do try to watch what I say out loud especially around her. Our voice matters SO much and I firmly believe that if a young child is already having self-image problems, it could possibly have started at home (more than likely not intentionally). It’s our jobs to build them up and it’s our job to love ourselves so they grow up to love themselves!
5) Because of her, I have learned to forgive myself. I have learned that as a mother, friend, lover, daughter – I will mess up time and time again. That messing up doesn’t define me, it’s how I recover from the mistakes. I have learned that I can’t get everything right the first time and that sometimes things don’t go as planned. Some days I fail and that’s okay. I am so thankful for her forgiving heart for I am not perfect, but I can promise one thing – I will give my very best every. single. day. for the rest of my life because you are my light. My best may not always be the same every day but my heart is always in a good place.
I am so thankful for the 5 years I have been given thus far and can’t wait to see what the future holds.
What are some things motherhood has taught you? How long have you been a mom?